Wednesday, September 23, 2015

9/23/2015 10:30:00 AM

Nicole Arbour is no stranger to controversy at this point, but regardless of your opinion of her as a person, she is blowing up right now. She was recently on The View, where they attacked her for her video "Dear Fat People."

If you haven't heard of that video, and the controversy around it, hit Google up. Googs will hook you up with all of it. There are probably thousands of replies from fat people on YouTube that were offended by her video.

As for me personally, I'm an overweight guy. I'm 230 lbs and 6 feet tall. I carry my weight well, but I'm fat...technically obese. I didn't see an issue with her video, and I wasn't offended by it.

Before anyone gets all worked up, I do understand the counterpoint. Fat people have been picked on since time began. That first cave man that ate too many mammoths and started to grow a belly was probably picked on as well. Fat people have always been the butt of people's jokes, which negatively impacts their self esteem, which makes them want to eat more, and doesn't help them get healthy. I get that point.

People should be spreading love, not hate, and the world will be a better place. Yeah, yeah. I get it.

However, people need to be able to take a joke. Understand the difference between satire and real hate, so you can focus your energy in the right place to drive change.

The comedy world has come under fire in recent years because of controversial jokes. Daniel Tosh with rape jokes. Natasha Leggero joking about old people on New Year's Eve... etc.

The problem is that by gathering up the lynch mob and chasing after comedians for making a joke, you're missing the point entirely. The reason jokes about controversial topics can be funny, is not necessarily because they are controversial, it's because of a little thing called irony.

Daniel Tosh isn't raping women and then making jokes about it. If that were true, it wouldn't be funny. Sometimes there are jokes that are funny because there's a shred of truth to them, other times there are jokes that are funny because they're ironic, and sometimes it's both.

Ralphie May has a ton of material that makes fun of fat people, as do a lot of comedians. None of those comedians actually hate fat people.

What fat people, such as myself, should be railing against is real hate and discrimination based on weight. Not chasing YouTubers or comedians with skeleton costumes or pitch forks.

I'm not going to do that. I'm also not going to pretend that being fat isn't damaging to my health either. It is. If you want to be offended by something, be offended that our fat brethren is chasing after someone who made a joke, instead of actual discrimination. Be offended that the real focus isn't about the health of our society, childhood obesity, diabetes, and heart problems. It's serious, people.

However, change in health requires focus, discipline, and hard work. That's something fat people like me have a hard time with.

Here's another thing... Nicole Arbour didn't force her video down your throat. She posted it on her YouTube channel, and you all watched it. It was your choice to watch it. If you don't like what she has to say, and you don't think she's funny, then don't watch her videos. It's that simple.

If you do have a sense of humor, a sense of irony, and you can laugh at yourself... then let's all take a deep breath and appreciate people that are trying to make us laugh. We don't have to agree with everything that comes out of their mouths, but being funny is hard. Some jokes land and some don't. If we got offended by every unfunny thing that was ever said, we would all die of stress related heart attacks. It's not worth it.

Here's Nicole on Playboy Radio talking about the aftermath of her "Dear Fat People" video.


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